Put-in-Bay Bachelorette Party Etiquette
When are wild bachelorette parties too wild? At Put-in-Bay, you would probably think that there is such thing as "too wild". The answer is... whenever the bride experiences more than temporary discomfort or unrest. The bachelorette party culture definitely encourages girlfriends to create a wild night in imitation of legendary bachelorette parties and stories handed down from sisters and friends, but this can also lead to awkward situations. At the same time, girlfriends don't want to be so timid and scared of offending the bride that no fun gets planned at all. A bride may not want to spell it out to her girlfriends that her ideal night of fun is a quiet get together sharing stories and a bottle of wine in your Put-in-Bay Resort villa versus a can of whipped cream, a handful of dollar bills and a male stripper. The answer is to use good judgement, and always provide the bride with a way out. Consider your friend's personality, and don't plan something that is far beyond the level of anything you've seen her do before. Remember that the party is for the bride to have fun, not for her friends to see her humiliated. It is good to remember that weddings are an emotional time when friends might not react in predicable ways. Shy brides might not feel able to tell friends that they feel uncomfortable, but providing her with a choice gives the bride a polite way out.
A bride should not have to cover any of the costs of her bridal celebration weekend on Put-in-Bay, so bridesmaids can choose to share the costs of a bachelorette party or ask guests to contribute. Bridesmaids are also responsible for helping the bride to dress for the bachelorette party and the wedding, and talking to the groom on the big day. If planning the bridal party celebration falls to you as a bridesmaid, don't be afraid to call on the bride's mother for help. She can give you advice on decorations and gag gifts the bride will enjoy as well as share some good stories of the bride-to-be when she was younger.
It is not an absolute rule that the groom's mother be invited to the bridal celebration. In current times it is generally understood that a bride wants to party with her friends on her last night out, although it is considered polite to invite both mothers IF the bride's mother has been invited to come along with your group up to the island. One way to side-step the issue is to organize a compromise, such as a two-part bachelorette party that invites mothers for the dinner and daytime games and events but leaves them behind when the serious nighttime partying begins in downtown Putinbay. Another option is for the bride to invite her own and the groom's mother for an afternoon tea, where the three ladies can get to know each other better in a comfortable environment and save the fun with her girlfriends for later in the day.
Inviting the Guests
If you're hosting a bachelorette party, remember that the guests invited to come along should be the bride's choice. In other words, if the bride wants a subdued, intimate gathering, her guests should reflect that type of atmosphere. You won't want to invite the gals who like to get tipsy and flirt (or worse) all night. Remember that the bachelorette party is a celebration of the bride-to-be, ushering her into a new and happy phase of life. Her party should be a symbol of that, right down to the guests. And if she wants a day and night of fun, the Put-in-Bay offers that as well!
When To Invite
It is best to send invitations for a bachelorette party at least one month before the date. If you send the invitations up to two months before, be sure to include an RSVP date closer to the party date, to ensure that guests schedule it into their calendar instead of setting the invitation aside and forgetting about it. You will want to be sure that you cover teh costs of the hotel rooms, suites, villas, or rental home that you reserved months in advance, but not harness the girls in to committing too early. When setting the date, take into consideration the things that the bride needs to get done for the wedding. Bachelorette parties can take place months before the wedding, but as an organizer you can plan carefully and give the bride a night out just when she needs a break from all the stress of wedding planning. An ideal time is around two weeks before the wedding, but be sure to check the bride's schedule and Put-in-Bay calendar of events before setting such a date, and take into account how far people will need to travel for both events. Ensure that the day after the party is kept clear for the bride to recover, and there will be no excuses for her to back away from having a whale of a time. Put-in-Bay is all about having fun!
There is no hard and fast bachelorette party etiquette on alcohol, apart from those dictated by law. Put-in-Bay has traditionally been known as a party island and there is no shrotage of options for finding or consuming alcohol from bringing it with you for your hotel room to laying out at the poolside Blue Marlin Tiki Bar to partying at Mr. Ed's all night long. As with every event involving alcohol, it is important to consider how much of a part alcohol should play in the party. Lack of consideration at the planning stage can be disastrous and hurtful. Ask the bride about guests' preferences when it comes to alcohol when planning the event, in order to judge the balance between drinkers and non-drinkers. You may need to compromise, and it is always a good idea to provide a no-alcohol avenue to avoid pressuring anyone to drink. Some guests may have personal reasons to avoid alcohol they are reluctant to reveal. Renting a home at the Island Club is a great choice because you have a BYOB pool there and girls who don't want to drink can bring their water or soda with them in the cooler. FInally, NEVER drink and rive at Put-in-Bay! Call 419-285-5466 for taxi service anywhere on the island.
Who To Invite
Bachelorette party etiquette dictates that only people who are invited to the wedding should be invited to the bachelorete party. If you are only having a very small wedding, inviting only family or very close friends, it is acceptable to invite a wider range of people to the bachelorette party, but be warned that anyone attending might put pressure on the bride-to-be to be invited to the wedding as well. The mothers of the bride and groom don't have to be invited to the bachelorette party, but if you do invite family it is considered polite to invite family from both sides. If it is likely to make the bride uncomfortable to have her soon-to-be mother-in-law at her last night of fun, but she feels she has to be invited, the bachelorette party can be held in two parts - a well-behaved plan of daytime events and dinner, leading to a wild night out on the town when Mom leaves.